I’ve seen a lot of weddings and it can be very odd when it comes time for the father/daughter mother/son dance. Is this because it’s the first time you have ever danced with your dad? Or is it because we are all watching you dance? One way to make you feel better during your wedding is to do the father/daughter mother/son dance at the same time.

When planning your day, I don’t think the goal should ever be to make a new wheel, but I’m a big fan of making small changes to those classic moments to help make the memory of your wedding stand out from the one last year. While at the same time, have a nice flow by cutting those times that you just want to be over and done with as quick as you can.

One mistake I see often is when brides and grooms let their parents pick songs that are so slow and sappy. Yes mom, the words of that song may describe how you feel about your baby boy, but do we really want to hear about the wind under your wings again? And can you please tell me what is a butterfly kiss?

There’s safety in numbers, so I find that when couples choose a combined parent dance, by doing both dances at the same time to the same song, everyone feels much more relaxed. Upbeat songs can also help this; not a fast song, but really slow songs seem to last forever.

This is a day to celebrate the two who are getting married. The parent dances are times for you to honor them, but make sure this moment is still about you. So my advice is to, at least, think about doing the father/daughter mother/son dance at the same time.

Father/daughter mother/son dance songs:

The Way You Look Tonight – Frank Sinatra

You Are The Sunshine Of My Life – Stevie Wonder

My Girl – The Temptations

Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder

Unforgettable – Nat “King” Cole

Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton

What A Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong

My Wish – Rascal Flatts

Over The Rainbow – Israel “Iz” Kamakawiwo’ole

I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack